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Valentine’s Day — for Love, not Conspicuous Consumption.

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I’m tired of these jewelry companies, et. al., framing the narrative of Valentine’s Day and turning it into a purely commercial event.

Every year around this time I grit my teeth and want to scream after seeing all the ads for jewelry, flowers, Vermont Teddy Bears, the Pajamagram, and anything else that can be sold as “a unique testament to your love” on what’s purported to be the most romantic day of the year: Valentine’s Day.

But Valentine’s Day should mean more than an evening out (lovely though that is); it should mean more than a bouquet of flowers, any piece of jewelry (no matter how lovely, or expensive, it may be); it should mean more than sending a Pajamagram or a Vermont Teddy Bear (cute as the latter is, and practical as the former can be).

No.  Valentine’s Day should be about your love for your partner.  Period.

I don’t know why this isn’t discussed more; I know I’m not the only person in the world to feel this way.  But when I see these commercials, I just get so disgusted, so irate, and so frustrated.  Many people believe exactly what these advertisers tell them to believe: that it’s important to spend money on Valentine’s Day, to have a “unique testament” to your love (in the form of the advertiser’s choice, of course), rather than to do what’s truly important — spending time with your loved one.

Take it from me: no one wonders at the end of his or her life if you should’ve given your lover (wife, husband, soulmate) another gift, or wonders if the gifts you’ve given of a monetary nature were big enough.

Instead, what people wonder about is this: “Did I spend enough time with my husband/wife/significant other?”  (Much less the ancillary questions of:  “Did I show how much I care enough?” and ” Did I love (him/her) enough?”)  Or, put another way, people wonder whether or not they fully expressed their love for their partner, and sometimes have regrets that they didn’t say or do enough emotionally.  But they certainly do not worry about whether or not they did enough financially, in the sense of gift-giving, years later!

So, please, for those of you who truly love another, do your best to concentrate on what you have that you can’t quantify with money because it’s priceless — each other.  Spend time with one another, and love each other, and have fun because you’re so jazzed to be in each other’s presence . . . and stop “counting coup,” financially.  Please!

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February 14, 2011 at 9:16 pm

Just Reviewed “The Agent Gambit” by Lee and Miller

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Folks, if you haven’t read Sharon Lee and Steve Miller’s speculative fiction yet, you really and truly should.

But in case I haven’t convinced you yet by my several previous blogs and reviews upon the subject, here is my latest review for THE AGENT GAMBIT, an omnibus put out by Baen Books that combines Lee and Miller’s very first Liaden Universe novel, AGENT OF CHANGE with their third novel (and direct sequel to the former) CARPE DIEM


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February 14, 2011 at 6:33 pm