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Valentine’s Day 2012 — A Slow, Quiet Day

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Today was a slow, quiet day in most respects; I mostly focused on editing.  But then I realized that I hadn’t posted a blog subject in several days (bad, bad me), so that’s why you’re seeing a new one even though I have little to say of consequence.

That being said, let’s get to it.

Folks, those of you who have living spouses and/or significant others, I hope you’ve had a wonderful Valentine’s Day.

For the rest of y’all, who are in my position — that is, widows and widowers — do your best to remember how it felt to be fully alive in all senses, and how it felt to love and be loved in return.  That’s the best way we have to honor our loved ones, so treasure those memories and do not surrender them even if (when?) you manage to find someone new to love down the road.  Because if someone falls in love with you, they have to fall in love with every part of you, not just the parts they like — or the parts that are easiest to love.  And as a wise man once told me, “Michael was a very big part of your life.  How you could possibly excise him in order to tempt someone else into a relationship is beyond me.  So don’t listen to anyone who tells you not to talk about Michael, because that person is, as you say, ‘plain, flat wrong.'”  (Three guesses as to who said this, and the first two don’t count.)

Anyway, this is what I said last year, and it still holds true for this year and many years to come:

So remember, folks; V-Day should be all about love, not all about what gifts you give (or get in return).


Written by Barb Caffrey

February 14, 2012 at 10:56 pm