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Staying Stable in an Unstable World

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Lately, wherever I’ve gone, I’ve had the feeling that the world just isn’t as stable as it used to be.

Granted, maybe it was all illusory, that feeling of stability. But feelings need to be taken into account, or you can’t keep yourself stable no matter what’s going on around you.

In the United States, we have a President who shoots from the lip (or at least from “the Twitter”) as often as he possibly can. He doesn’t seem to care if this bothers foreign leaders, or his own citizens, or anyone else; he just does it, because “Trump’s gotta be Trump.” (Yes, I’ve heard this a great deal.)

We’ve never before had a President like this in the U.S. We’ve had blustering Presidents, sure. (Some might say Teddy Roosevelt qualifies, here. And certainly Warren G. Harding.) We’ve also had Presidents that got in under odd circumstances (witness the 1876 election of Rutherford B. Hayes). But we’ve never before had someone who seems to delight in recklessness and obnoxiousness in this particular way.

That President Trump doesn’t seem to understand the pain of new widow Myeshia Johnson, the wife of deceased U.S. Army Sergeant LaDavid T. Johnson, just adds the cherry on top of a whole bunch of unadulterated rudeness and disrespect.

And as an American citizen, I can’t help but feel terrible about this. I don’t understand why this particular man can’t seem to understand that being the President requires empathy as well as logic, and caring as well as commerce.

Not that Donald Trump is alone in seeming to bring the caricature of “the ugly American” to a new (and highly disgusting) sheen. There are all those people who marched in Charlottesville in a white supremacist march, too, pointing out there are still plenty of others in this country who have no interest in tolerance, respect, or basic human decency.

And that also makes me, as a rational person, feel less stable. Less like the light I can bring, and the creativity I keep trying to use, will make any difference.

Regardless of anything else, those of us who have a shred of creativity need to keep using it. This is when it’s needed most. And we can’t stop when it’s hard; we may have to take more breaks, and we may have to give ourselves time to rebalance ourselves sometimes, and we may have to remember that what we do still matters no matter what it looks like…but yes, indeed, we must use our creativity as best we can.

Why? Because we need to do everything we can to stay on balance. Live the lives we were born to live. And refuse to let anyone, regardless of pride, position, or Presidency, take us off our course.

So, in addition to doing my best to stay creative, I’ve also resolved the following things. I’m going to reject bad behavior, whoever it’s from. Reject words that make no sense, whoever says them. Reject those who just don’t seem to get it that we all need to pull together, and do what we can to bring more rationality and respect and tolerance and (dare I say it?) kindness into this world.

And if I can do all that, I believe I will feel more stable, centered, and whole.

What do you do to stay stable in an unstable world? Tell me about it in the comments!

Written by Barb Caffrey

October 24, 2017 at 8:39 pm

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  1. I’m with you! Trump is making this world a very scary place right now. And yes, the way things are, it’s hard to stay stable. I find meditation helps a bit – it makes the difference between staying just about sane and going completely mad!


    October 25, 2017 at 7:17 am

    • Yes, that’s all true.

      Glad the meditation is helping. 🙂 And thanks for the comment, Annabelle…always glad to “see” you, so to speak. 😀

      Barb Caffrey

      October 25, 2017 at 5:03 pm

  2. Very well expressed, Annabelle – we have instability here in the UK, brexit voting based on lies, for example. But your sentiments in the last para rang true with me!


    October 25, 2017 at 7:23 am

  3. It’s hard to keep buoyant when so much insanity is taking place. I believe to bring light into this world, you have to take care of yourself. Get out there, go for walks, gather ideas and connect with others. I recently went to NZ and met a local lady who does so much for her community. It made my whole trip! Xxx


    October 25, 2017 at 3:35 pm

    • That’s an excellent idea, Raphaela. Communing with nature, or at least getting out there now and again, is a great idea.

      I try to go down by Lake Michigan (which is close to where I live; it’s one of the Great Lakes) and sit there, and contemplate the waves as often as I can. Whether it’s cold, warm, or somewhere in between, that water is always there. And there’s something soothing about it, even when there’s a storm out and the waves are crashing hard against the shore.

      Thanks so much for your comment. (You are absolutely right.)

      Barb Caffrey

      October 25, 2017 at 5:05 pm

  4. It’s certainly tough! We get our fair share of politics here; I shake my head at it so much I’m worried it’s going to be permanently shaking. 😅

    What I do is focus on the positive; I try to write positive stuff and at least smile at the people around me. There’s already enough negativity around, so having some positivity helps me to balance a bit better. 😀


    October 30, 2017 at 8:31 pm

    • Yeah, agreed about the head-shaking. 🙂

      You do focus on the positive, and I think that’s wonderful. 😀

      *hugs* for general principles, and enjoy your day and evening ahead. 😀

      Barb Caffrey

      October 31, 2017 at 8:35 pm

      • Thanks for the kind words, Barb, and [big hugs!] ❤️❤️❤️
        Have a great day ahead too. 😀


        November 1, 2017 at 8:31 pm

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