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Celebrating the Love of Friends: A Collaboration with a Purpose Post

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Folks, the Collaboration with a Purpose group wanted to talk about love. But not necessarily romantic love; any sort of love we felt like, save self-love (which we covered last year), would do.

So I decided, after much reflection, to talk about the love of friends, and why it should be much more celebrated than it is.

February Collaboration (main)

We tend to celebrate romantic love in this culture, and around the Westernized world. But when romances end, it’s our friends who comfort us; when our parents are ill, it’s our friends who comfort us; when we’ve had a horrible day, it’s our friends who comfort us. And those unsung people are the ones we often lean on, far more than anyone else, in order to live the best lives we can.

And I, personally, know this is so, because it’s exactly what I’ve done. While I love my family, and I care about them deeply, most of the time it’s my friends who hear my innermost thoughts and feelings.

Why? Well, they listen. They don’t judge. They often have good insights that come from different angles than the ones I’ve already considered. And they remind me that the family you pick — your friends, in other words — is just as important as the family you were stuck with by birth.

Friends care, in short, in a way that’s deep and powerful. It’s every bit as important as romantic love, the love of friends; in some ways, it’s more important, because if you’re with someone you care about romantically but you aren’t actually friends with them, that’s not much of a romance. (Just saying.)

So, we think love is all about this:

February Collaboration (optional)


And while there is a lot of that, in love — the lightness of being, the feeling that you can do anything — and while that is a wonderful picture (which is why I wanted to use it, though it was our “alternate” photo this time), I think the love of friends is actually more important.

Because friends stay with you, through good and bad. And friends don’t stop caring, no matter what…which is why the love of friends, arguably, is just as important as romantic love. (And I truly wish it were just as celebrated. Really.)

Now, go take a look at these blogs from my Collaboration with a Purpose buddies!

Divyang Shah

Mylene Orillo

Ipuna Black

Sonyo Estavillo

Sadaf Siddiqi

Nicolle K.

Jane Love

Swati Kadamb


Written by Barb Caffrey

February 5, 2018 at 6:14 pm

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  3. I agree with this great post! Family and partners are great, but the ones who really listen to us are our friends. I owe a great deal to my best buddy who stood by me when I once had depression. 😀
    Also, I hope you’re better now! ❤️


    February 5, 2018 at 10:44 pm

    • I’m still recovering, Nicolle — I had that really bad bronchitis that went around the US for a bit, there — but I am much better, thanks.

      And I’m glad you liked my post. 😀

      Barb Caffrey

      February 6, 2018 at 12:22 am

      • Ouch, I’m glad you’re much better now, though do get even better soon! ❤


        February 6, 2018 at 2:02 am

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  6. Yay to friend love! It’s a bonus if you could be best friends with your partner! But I still need my friends and partner. 🙂 Great insight!

    Ipuna Black

    February 6, 2018 at 12:59 pm

    • Thanks, Ipuna! I’m glad you enjoyed it.

      And yes, be best friends with your partner. (I was, with mine. It made a significant difference, that level of understanding, and made everything else far better, too.)

      Barb Caffrey

      February 6, 2018 at 4:00 pm

      • Yes, I remember. Your post on your husband was sooooooo touching. I felt the love between you two.

        Ipuna Black

        February 8, 2018 at 12:48 am

      • I like to think that love never dies, if it’s true and real. But when one person physically passes away, there are some expressions of it you can’t exactly have anymore…if that makes sense.

        I’m glad you understood and enjoyed my piece about Michael. He was by far the best person I’ve ever known in my life. I was very happy with him and I know he was happy with me also. Losing him early was not easy and I still to this day miss him profoundly. But I try to go on and realize that very few people are able to know that level of love at all, and that I was blessed because of it. (I think the term “blessed” gets thrown around a lot, sometimes for not-so-great reasons. But in this case, I mean it precisely.)

        Barb Caffrey

        February 13, 2018 at 2:44 pm

  7. True. Family and friends are all that one needs in life. I liked how you referred to us as your collaboration buddies. Glad to collaborate with all of you.

    Author: Sadaf Siddiqi

    February 8, 2018 at 6:45 am

    • I enjoy doing it, Sadaf, and that seemed like a good term to use. 😀

      Barb Caffrey

      February 13, 2018 at 2:42 pm

  8. Collaboration with a purpose is a fabulous idea by writers. Cheers to your efforts.

    Sarah Adam

    February 8, 2018 at 9:46 am

  9. What more do I want in life when I’ve got the love of friends and family? Great post as always, Barb. Yay to friend love


    February 8, 2018 at 12:05 pm

  10. I love your take on love of friends. Yes, it’s true, especially if you’ve found good friends who are always there through your ups and downs, and who doesn’t expect anything in return, just pure friendship and love. They say friends are angels in disguise. Thank God for friends.

    Mylene Orillo

    February 16, 2018 at 8:30 am

    • Thanks, Mylene. I’m glad you enjoyed my post. (I enjoyed yours, too.) 🙂

      Barb Caffrey

      February 16, 2018 at 9:40 pm

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