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Be Good…to Yourself?

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Folks, I have been thinking about something for the last week or two. And I hope it makes some sense.

We see all sorts of bad stuff on television, on the internet, and any other way we consume media these days. And it can be hard to keep going. People dying in Florida at a school shooting (why, oh why?) is only the latest awful thing to take over the airwaves.

This affects everyone, whether you know it or not. People dying when they don’t need to is hard for society as a whole to bear. And it seems to happen over and over again.

So, why am I saying to be good to yourself, rather than all the stuff I normally say? It’s simple. I think in addition to talking to your legislators (if you feel the need), making donations to groups you support (including those supporting responsible and safe gun ownership), you need to remember to take time for yourself in your day, especially when times are hard or bad.

Most of us don’t do this. And then we wonder why we get worn down to nubs at the end of the day.

I have friends who have multiple jobs, and also write. I have other friends who are like me; they try to help their family members and friends as best they can, do their work, and cram in writing whenever possible. (Tonight, mind, I’m also cramming in a concert with the Racine Concert Band, another thing I enjoy doing.)

We don’t remember that we, ourselves, are the priorities in our lives. We think about others. We don’t think about us, because we’re taught not to, and the few who do seem to think about themselves at all are so blatantly narcissistic, any reasonable and decent person wants no part of that.

But there is a continuum, you see. You don’t have to be a narcissist to be good to yourself.

All I ask you tonight is, try to do something good for yourself every day, if only for five minutes. Listen to some music you haven’t heard in a while but you really like. Read a chapter of a book you’ve been meaning to get around to. Take a bubble bath. Go find one of those massage chairs (or ask a friend) and get your neck and/or back massaged.

That way, it’s easier to do everything else you need to do — including when you need to deal with bad news you’d rather not have to deal with (such as the latest school shooting) — with a fuller heart.

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Written by Barb Caffrey

February 20, 2018 at 7:35 pm

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  1. These are wise words Barb.
    Have to be reblogged

    Woebegone but Hopeful

    February 22, 2018 at 12:25 pm

  2. Reblogged this on heroicallybadwriter and commented:
    Here are some very deep and sensible wise words to think on when you’re feeling bad

    Woebegone but Hopeful

    February 22, 2018 at 12:26 pm

  3. Doing good to others and focusing on the needs of others is being good to myself.

    Sha'Tara

    February 22, 2018 at 6:01 pm

    • I would agree with that, in the main. Just don’t forget that you, yourself, are also important. (That’s what I was trying to get at. I tend to submerge myself into helping others.)

      Barb Caffrey

      February 25, 2018 at 10:47 pm


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