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It’s Mother’s Day (in the US)

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Folks, last week I asked a friend of mine who lives in Scotland if he was going to do anything for Mother’s Day, and he drew a blank.

Then we both figured out that Mother’s Day isn’t celebrated on the same day in the United Kingdom. This year, Mothering Sunday (what they call Mother’s Day) fell on March eleventh.

So, for those of you in the United States, you probably know that Mother’s Day is today. Sunday, May thirteenth, 2018. And beyond all the hype you see online or on television regarding “you must get Mom this special something NOW,” there’s a quieter, more reflective holiday underneath it all that deserves your time and attention.

I realize that not everyone has a mother who’s still alive. (I am very fortunate that I can celebrate this day with my Mom, and am glad to do it.)

I also realize that some people don’t have mothers at all. (One of my best male friends is raising a daughter, alone. I’ve told him before that he should celebrate both Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, as he’s doing all the work.) And days like this are hard for them.

Personally, I think you should celebrate as much as you can, as often as you can, with the people who matter the most to you. If those people have nothing to do with your biological (or adopted) families, well, then they just don’t.

But you should let people know when you care about them, as often as you possibly can.

Why? Well, this world can be a cold and lonely place from time to time. The people we care about the most help bridge those times, and remind us that we do have family, friends, and loved ones to give us strength when we have little ourselves. And remind us of our past successes when we’re instead dwelling on our current failures, because they’ve seen it all and know we can rise, as phoenixes, from the ashes of futility yet again, given time.

Nurturing is hard work. And the people who do it don’t get anywhere near the credit they deserve.

So on this particular day, I hope to celebrate my mother. And my sister. And my friends who are mothers. And my friend the single father (who really should get to celebrate today, too). And everyone else who needs to be remembered for nurturing the next generation, so they can in turn nurture the next when their time comes.

What are you going to do for Mother’s Day? (Or what did you do, if you’re in a place that’s already celebrated it?) Tell me about it in the comments!


Written by Barb Caffrey

May 13, 2018 at 4:52 am

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  1. Wonderfully tender and warm post Barb.
    Yes our Mothering Sunday is linked to the Season of Lent (which moves around in a complex formulae that needs several charts to figure out) and is on the Fourth Sunday of Lent.
    Apparently it has some origins in the Middle Ages (I think) when fasting was encouraged during the Lent Season, but the custom arose that the children of the family would bring their mothers little gifts of food in recognition of all her hard work the rest of the year.
    Even now I still do a double-take when I see Mother’s Day mentioned in May.
    Hope you all are having a lovely day

    Woebegone but Hopeful

    May 13, 2018 at 4:06 pm

    • I’m glad you enjoyed the post, Roger. But I’m sorry I missed your Mothering Sunday. (Next year, I’ll know to look for it!)

      And it’s good that some customs — such as this — arose that are still relevant from the Middle Ages. 😀

      Barb Caffrey

      May 13, 2018 at 9:19 pm

      • I love the sentiment in the origins.

        Woebegone but Hopeful

        May 14, 2018 at 3:00 am

      • PS: Most people in the UK are never sure when Mothering Sunday is until the Greeting Card firms start up with this year’s batch 😄

        Woebegone but Hopeful

        May 14, 2018 at 3:02 am

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