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Sunday Thoughts: Be a Better Person (Starting Today)

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Former President Jimmy Carter is the inspiration for this blog post. Enjoy!

Have you ever felt like wishing that you could just start over? That you messed up something so bad, so vital to your well-being, and you have no way in the world to fix it?

We all have done things we’re not proud of, as there are very few saints walking the face of this Earth. (At least, saints the quality of Mother Teresa, or Father Damien the Leper-Priest.) So I’m guessing that at least a few of you know what I mean.

You’ve had a bad day. Or a bad succession of days. And you wonder what you can possibly do to redeem yourself. Or at least do better than you’ve been doing.

Jimmy Carter has the answer, and it’s surprisingly simple. Decide to be a better person. Starting today.

See, the first thing you have to do, if you feel like you’ve messed up in an irredeemable way, is to tell yourself, “No more. I will do better. I will be better.”

Then, of course, you have to do the work. You have to figure out what type of person you want to be. And do everything in your power to work toward what you see as your best self — a more generous person, perhaps. Or a wiser one. Or maybe even one that’s more self-forgiving…ahem.

But you first have to make up your mind that you are going to change for the better. And that you’ve had enough of the status quo, whatever it is that’s plaguing you; that, too, you have to decide to get past, because otherwise, you’re going to fall into the same old traps.

That said, every day is a new day. If you screwed up badly yesterday, today is a clean slate. You can still make it a worthwhile day full of laughter and love, or creativity and inspiration (or better yet, all of the above). You, too, can make a better life for yourself, brick by brick, resolution by resolution.

You do not have to be held back by your fears, or by your past mistakes. Not if you don’t wish to be.

No, you can’t change the past. But you can learn from it. And you can grow, and change, and deepen, and make yourself more interesting and empathetic and kinder if you truly wish.

So, what do you want to do? Stay in the same ever-changing rut? Or learn from your failures, and make a clean, fresh start?

Yes. You can be a better person. Believe in yourself, give yourself a chance, and go forward rather than reliving the past.

You can still change the future, if you act today. But ultimately, it is all up to you.

Written by Barb Caffrey

May 26, 2019 at 4:43 am

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  1. Very wise words Barb, I for one am constantly in this state.
    Has to be reblogged.

    Woebegone but Hopeful

    May 28, 2019 at 5:25 am

    • Thanks, Roger! Though I have a hard time believing you to be in this state…I tend to think of you as a guy who heals the world by laughter, myself. 🙂

      Barb Caffrey

      May 28, 2019 at 5:31 am

      • Thank you Barb.
        Sadly I am as grouchy, judgemental, intolerant and swift to sounding off as any guy.
        WP is where I come to clean up an straighten myself out.

        Woebegone but Hopeful

        May 28, 2019 at 5:46 am

      • Well, we all have our bad days, Roger. Sometimes we have multiple ones. I know I have…even my late husband did, and he was the best person, as a human being, I’ve ever known.

        So, if he can have ’em, I think the rest of us can, too. And we should try to learn how not to beat ourselves up over it. Just go forward, and learn from the past — yes, we should do that — but don’t get trapped within it.

        Barb Caffrey

        May 28, 2019 at 9:48 pm

      • Wise words Barb, very wise words, I’ll keep them fixed in my head.
        Best wishes
        Roger
        💐 🌷 🌹 🥀 🌺 🌸 🌼 🌻 🌞

        Woebegone but Hopeful

        May 29, 2019 at 2:44 am

      • 😀

        Barb Caffrey

        May 29, 2019 at 4:46 pm

  2. Reblogged this on heroicallybadwriter and commented:
    As none of us are perfect and have episodes we would rather forget here are some very wise words from Barb

    Woebegone but Hopeful

    May 28, 2019 at 5:26 am


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