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Enough is Enough I was Sexually Assaulted at Work

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I am sharing this to boost the frequency. This poor teacher was assaulted by a student, didn’t get any help at all, and many students filmed this. (I said in a comment that I hope this will get her some sort of vindication.)

Teachers have a tough job. When they get assaulted, the police need to get there. (Whether they are upset at the school board for removing the police in the schools or not, what does that have to do with this poor woman?) When they file a report, the report should be filed properly. And when they tell their higher-ups (school principals and vice principals, probably), they should not only be believed, but should be helped so this will never happen again.


Yesterday I texted a fellow union representative to ask how she was doing. I had heard there was a pretty big assault at her building and wanted to lend support. I was stunned when she replied. “I am not ok, I was sexually assaulted.” I told her that I would do anything I could to help her, and offered my blog as a way to share what happened. These are her words. This is her story.

On Friday, October 8, 2021, I was sexually assaulted at work.

After calling 911 repeatedly, reporting in person to the Public Safety Building, and waiting 7 hours to file my police report, I’ve been told that it’s now missing.

I was failed by my workplace and again by my city.

I have nowhere left to turn.

This is my story.

I am a high school English teacher in Rochester, New York.

I work in…

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Written by Barb Caffrey

October 21, 2021 at 11:36 pm

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  1. There was a case in Virginia where a student was raping his fellow students and the school district was “handling it in house”.

    IE The School District just moved the student to other schools.

    Oh, in the latest rape, the school called the police on the girl’s father when he “objected” to the school “handing it in house”. Oh, the rapist had worn a skirt to enter the girl’s restroom where he raped the girl.

    Paul (Drak Bibliophile) Howard

    October 21, 2021 at 11:53 pm

    • That is just disgusting, Paul.

      It sounds like many school systems are falling down on the job. 😦

      Barb Caffrey

      October 22, 2021 at 8:40 pm

  2. This is horrendous. We have the similar issues in the UK. These matters need to be addressed robustly.


    October 22, 2021 at 2:41 am

    • They definitely do, Roger. They definitely do.

      Barb Caffrey

      October 22, 2021 at 8:41 pm

      • Before victims families decided they will be the law, and like as not pick on the wrong person.
        Hollywood Revenge movies are entertaining, but not real life.


        October 23, 2021 at 4:19 am

      • No the movies aren’t Reality but private citizens taking justice into their own hand is what happens when Justice isn’t Done by our governments.

        Paul (Drak Bibliophile) Howard

        October 23, 2021 at 9:55 am

      • I agree with you in part and there are cases where I would ‘hold their coat’. And you really do not want to know my response on finding the creature who perpetrated that filthy act.
        Overall though I have as many misgivings about the judgement of the private citizen as I have over the consistency of government.


        October 24, 2021 at 2:22 am

      • Nod.

        And there are other problems with “private justice” besides “targeting the correct person”.

        Paul (Drak Bibliophile) Howard

        October 24, 2021 at 10:25 am

      • Indeed myriad concerns.
        In the UK when paedophilia finally became a public topic of concern Paediatricians were targeted by the ignorant who had mixed up the words.
        The counter-reaction was during a demonstration by mothers on low income for more police surveillance/protection for children on their housing site-there had been one child murder. A woman living in a wealthy suburb was horrified by the site of ‘this mob’ and said she would rather have a paedophile living next door to her….I heard that on the radio.
        The last thing a lot of men driving in the UK will do these days is stop to ask directions from anyone other than an obvious adult. More than one has been attacked or at best reported.


        October 24, 2021 at 12:27 pm

      • That’s scary. 😦

        Barb Caffrey

        October 24, 2021 at 7:13 pm

      • Sadly Barb, nothing new there in Human reactions, over-reactions and social divides.


        October 25, 2021 at 2:09 am

      • Yeah. Sometimes I wonder how thin our veneer of civility actually is. I wonder it all the more when stories like this come to the fore.

        Barb Caffrey

        October 30, 2021 at 2:20 am

      • Wafer thin Barb.


        October 30, 2021 at 2:24 am

      • Yep. Unfortunately. 😦

        Barb Caffrey

        October 30, 2021 at 2:36 am

      • 😥


        October 30, 2021 at 4:13 am

      • Agreed.

        Barb Caffrey

        October 24, 2021 at 7:12 pm

      • Yeah. People vary widely and wildly as to what they believe and how they’re going to act, especially in a crisis situation.

        I just know that these poor teachers have to be given not only solace and guarantees this won’t happen again, but help.

        Barb Caffrey

        October 24, 2021 at 7:11 pm

      • Only if there is a cultural shift Barb and in this men have to stand up, take the lead and get the message home this is not how ‘True Men’ act.


        October 25, 2021 at 2:08 am

      • I agree with you.

        Barb Caffrey

        October 30, 2021 at 2:21 am

      • Yes, when we’re upset and things haven’t happened, lots of times there are riots and worse. (We’ve seen that in Kenosha in the past few years, as I’ve written about here.)

        I don’t know what the answers are, Paul. I just know that we have to keep looking for them — and hold our politicians accountable (by voting them out, if need be) when laws are inadequate or (in some cases) flat-out wrong. (The laws against medical marijuana in many states come to mind.)

        Barb Caffrey

        October 24, 2021 at 7:10 pm

      • Agreed.

        Barb Caffrey

        October 24, 2021 at 7:08 pm

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